My Thoughts When It Comes To Equality….




Today marks a historic day in the fight for Equality. If you haven’t heard, the Supreme Court struck down BOTH The Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), as well as California’s Prop 8. I find this epic. And with as proud as I am that our country is finally starting to move forward, I still hear echoes in my ear asking why I support same-sex marriage. My explanation may be all over the place, but hopefully you’ll understand.

Martin Niemöller is probably best known for the following quote:

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out–
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out–
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out–
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me–and there was no one left to speak for me.

I’ve heard a couple of variations on it. But it all amounts to the same thing, we can’t turn a blind eye to hate. If you sit back and let someone be bullied and hurt and abused, when it happens to you, don’t complain. It’s rather harsh, I know, but it holds no less true. I read a news report about how a Drag Queen was beaten by two women (note: he didn’t lay a finger on them), and the crowd around him video taped it and cheered as he was beaten bloody. But I digress.

For some reason, people are forgetting the small tidbit of how before 1967, interracial marriages were illegal too. If the Supreme Court hadn’t ruled it unconstitutional, then I probably wouldn’t even be here (if you don’t know, my mother is black, and my father is Puerto Rican). So when someone says that they want to get married, I’m all for it.

There have been a few people that I’ve spoken with on this. Some have given me religious reasons for not wanting equality, others have given me moral reasons. I won’t get into religion. If you need to know, I’m Catholic, but was raised believing that there is a God, and He loves openly… and then turn around and say that He hates Gays, Muslims, Atheists, Wiccans, and pretty much anyone else that doesn’t believe in what YOUR preacher is telling me. I won’t accept one without the other. In my book, He loves. End of story.

As for moral reason, I have to wave the bullshit flag. You teach your children morals from the time that they are born to the time you die, and sometimes, they may even teach you. But really look at the society we live in today. Shows like Teen Mom and Jersey Shore became hits. Even shows on the Disney Channel aren’t the same wholesome fun like when I was growing up. I refuse to let my daughter watch Spongebob Squarepants because I feel that it is completely inappropriate for a child to watch. We have started to become avid watchers of massive train wreck shows that glorify killers, mistresses, bed hopping and underage drinking. Our children have idols that have been caught taking nude pictures, making petty songs about exes, brawling and cutting. And out of all of them, only ONE has admitted to her mistake. So don’t tell me that two people that want to what basically boils down to the American Dream of a family will tarnish the morals of this country.

I could go on and on about this, but I won’t. I will stand back and be proud that we are starting to move in the right direction. Marriage is a CIVIL union. Churches have no place in the government, that’s what this country was founded on. That’s what we have to remember. Terms like “We the People” and “Justice for All” aren’t just for certain classes, or races, or even just straight people. Everyone should be given EVERY civil right. It’s that simple.

So for now, I’m going to get off my little soapbox and get back to my writing…. who knows, maybe I’ll write a novella of how Eric and Sloane got together….

Actually, I’m going to leave you with Dancing Vegeta… He’s happy about it too….


Oh, and just for the Haters 🙂 I’ll post an inspiration pic of Eric and Sloane…..


See you all later folks!!!
Dawn 🙂